Dependence/Incompetence Schema

This schema involves the belief that one is unable to handle everyday responsibilities in a competent manner without considerable help from others.

You might have this schema if you frequently experience:

• Relying excessively on others for decisions
• Feeling helpless when facing challenges alone
• Doubting your ability to handle practical tasks
• Seeking constant guidance and reassurance
• Avoiding adult responsibilities

Here are some common ways dependence/incompetence schema shows up in daily life:

• •Calling someone for help with tasks you could do yourself
• •Staying in relationships because you fear you can't manage alone
• •Avoiding responsibilities like finances or maintenance

Dependence/Incompetence Schema often co-occurs with these other schemas: